How do we distinguish between someone who has real problems and drama kings and Queens who just can’t be helped? Have you been asked for an opinion about a solution without volunteering one? Does this person have real problems that are ready to be solved and do you just need to lend a hand? Will you make a difference by offering your expertise and words of wisdom?
Are they truly ready to do what it takes to change this negative situation? Or is someone just complaining and really wouldn’t appreciate help or take your advice? Is this person always involved in negative situations? Do they enjoy being in the center of hopeless situations? These are the questions I ask myself before trying to help anyone.
I used to try and fix things all the time for people…..Who didn’t want anything fixing, they just wanted something to complain about. It doesn’t make sense buying into anyone’s drama, including our own? Oh yes…we can all be dramatic at times. When this happens, all we need to do is ground the dramatic energies by centering ourselves.
If you feel yourself getting upset or pulled in, ask yourself what is the lesson to be learned here? What about this situation is tugging at your heart strings? Does this remind you about something that happened to you in the past? A lesson that you have already learned so it would be easy to show them how to fix their problem, right? But, it’s their turn to grow through this and they’ll do it when they are ready. Some people will never be ready as the drama makes them feel important. You need to send these people all the silent blessings you can and if possible, avoid them.
Your response should be something like; I’m sorry this is happening to you. What do you think you should do about it? If you’re told they don’t think there is anything that can done about it…Then, they are absolutely right. They are not ready to make a change. So, any help or advise you could offer at this time is futile. They just need to vent. Once they’ve finished venting….perhaps you could change things up by changing the subject to something more positive.
Remember, life is a journey and not a destination. We all get our own A-ha moments when we’re ready. Choose to send prayers, love, light and happiness to all involved in the drama, but decide to sit this one out. I asked my spirit guides how did they feel about drama? They told me it was one of things that they didn’t miss at all. You can’t help someone who isn’t ready to be helped. I have never seen drama produce any positive results, have you?